Journeys of an adoptive dad

The writings and ramblings of a first time dad navigating the world of adoption.

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The isolation and loneliness of adoption

19/07/2021 Adoption can be really isolating. Really isolating. From the challenges of having to be separate and not introduce family early in placement, to the isolating impact of challenging behaviou…

The importance of contact

25/05/2021 Adoption has rightly changed enormously over the years. Where once it would have been seen as the right thing to ‘protect’ a child against issues arising from contact with birth family, we …

Why I’m not an adoption evangelist

22/04/2021 When I discuss adoption and my views on it, I often find there’s a disconnect between where people expect me to be and where I actually am. In wider society, there can understandably be a s…

Framing contemporary adoption

21/03/2021 There is a gulf between perceptions of adoption within wider society and the experience and understanding of adopters and adoptees. This is obviously no great revelation to anyone involved …

Adopting a child with additional needs

02/03/2021 Like all prospective adopters, we had to think long and hard about our matching criteria during the approval process. When we started out, we wouldn’t have imagined adopting a child with un…

A drive for more adopters must be mirrored by a better package of support

13/02/2021 Adoption recruitment is essential, but so is post-adoption support and helping adopted young people understand their life stories. It’s clear that big moves are afoot in the worlds of child…

Sensory overload and early trauma

04/02/2021 I find myself thinking about the sensory processing issues that adopted children face more and more. Our daughter, like many has had significant sensory challenges, which relate to her earl…

Therapeutic parenting and authenticity

28/01/2021 Let’s be honest, sometimes parenting therapeutically is hard – really hard. It might be that you’re tired, something in another part of your life is taking up a lot of brain space, or possi…

Three ways that you can have your voice heard on adoption right now

22/01/2021 A lot is happening in the world of adoption and children’s social care. There’s a huge ongoing focus on recruiting new adopters and a narrative coming from central Government about speeding…

“They all do that, don’t they?”

20/01/2021 It’s a mantra that all adopters here frequently. Usually it’s a loved one, who is genuinely trying to helpful when you’re describing some of the challenges of raising your child. They smile…

Thinking about adoption support

16/01/2021 It’s clear that post-adoption support is a huge issue. In 2020’s Adoption Barometer survey from Adoption UK, 68% of respondents who had obtained an adoption order didn’t have a written supp…

Speeding up the adoption process at all costs is neither in the interests of children or adopters

22/12/2020 (previously published)* My family has benefited significantly from the rigour of the adoption process. I was asked by someone considering adoption whether the process is ‘invasive’, t…

Early trauma, attachment and lockdown

22/12/2020 (previously published)* Lockdown is difficult for all children, but adopted children and those in the care system can experience some specific challenges related to their trauma. It was hea…

Reflections on a year of change

22/12/2020 (previously published)* This year was one of turbulence, upheaval and change on the national stage, but for also for me personally. I’m not really accustomed to writing about myself. But as…

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The isolation and loneliness of adoption

19/07/2021 Adoption can be really isolating. Really isolating. From the challenges of having to be separate and not introduce family early in placement, to the isolating impact of challenging behaviou…